The Other Side of 50

Fairfield author digs deep for brutal truth

By From page OSF7 | August 14, 2014


The cover of Horace Armour's book "How Strong is Your Love"

FAIRFIELD — Horace Armour took a chance on condemnation by putting pen to paper.

The 79-year-old Fairfield resident made the leap with his self-published autobiographical tale of what it was like for him to be in love with two women at one time. One was his late wife of 47 years who died in 2006, and the other, a young fiancee from long ago. The latter he dubbed  “the one who got away.”

“I knew that once it came out, some people would be highly upset with me because I broke society’s rule by being married to one woman and in love (with another) married woman,” he said. “But I felt maybe someone might feel I was telling their story and they were too ashamed to admit it. I felt there were others out there caught up in the web of love.”

Armour, an Air Force and Navy veteran and a cancer survivor originally from Detroit, met the “other” woman as a 20-year-old – she, “Red,” was 16. Armour joined the military, not telling her until the last minute. The relationship itself didn’t last, but the feelings did.

He met his wife when he was stationed with the Air Force in the Philippines in 1958. They married a year later. While his wife met the other woman, he never confessed his feelings about that woman.

“I was honest with her because I wasn’t going out and having an affair with this lady or any other lady, but I was dishonest with her because I never told her I had feelings for another lady,” he said.

“How Strong is Your Love,” his story, was published through AuthorHouse . When Armour started jotting down notes and thoughts, he wasn’t really sure what he was doing, he said. He made a few trips to the library to see how other authors prepped using other books as a guide, he asked questions and “eventually it fell into place.”

“Every time I got some thoughts, I’d write them down on that date,” he said. “I really didn’t know what I was doing (at first); how to piece it together.”

Writing it was hard, he said. He had to do some deep thinking, digging back into his childhood. He also wanted to make sure information in the story wouldn’t be hurtful to his family, “Red” or her family.

When he was to the point that he didn’t know how to continue, he submitted it to AuthorHouse. They helped him put the story together and even are helping him market his book using social media. Armour is currently working on his second book.

Armour encourages others who are planning to tell their story to be honest and “be truthful about what you write.”

He knows his type of honesty will bring about all sizes of comments and reviews. He’s had support and he’s also had someone tell him he betrayed his wife.

“Some people like what you write and some people might not like (it), but take it with a grain of salt,” he said.

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  • JimboAugust 14, 2014 - 11:44 am

    Before my father in law passed away 2 years ago I met many of his retired military friends. The majority of which fit this bill. There is an entire culture of retired military men his age who have to have a second female on the side. Some even have wives who know about the entire thing.

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  • gemmaAugust 14, 2014 - 7:17 pm

    I think this sounds like a book I'd love to read. I enjoy honesty. We've all met someone we'll never forget, and not telling your significant other, imo, is not being deceitful or lying. Why give them something to think about that isn't going to accomplish anything positive? You can't make your feelings go away, just because you married someone else. I always wonder about married couples, when one dies and the other remarries, what do they do with the feelings for their spouse that died? I think they keep them in a separate part of their memory,never letting them go, but they still have to move forward. You can't change the past, but I'm sure writing this book had to be somewhat therapeutic. I can't wait to read it :-)

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