Arlene Virginia Bammer, who raised five children and devoted most of her adult life to supporting her career U.S. Army officer husband, died early Thursday in Laurel Creek Health Center at Paradise Valley Estates in Fairfield. She was 92 and, for some dozen years, had suffered the effects of Alzheimerʼs dementia.
Born to Walter and Agnes Matney in Topeka, Kan., Arlene was raised in rural Missouri and attended public schools there. She later attended what is now called Southeast Missouri State University, her sights set on becoming a public school teacher. But in 1941, Arlene moved to Petaluma, where her parents lived, and settled there for a time. That same year she met Sgt. Wyndham H. Bammer, whom she married on Dec. 3, 1942, at the University of Chicago Chapel in Chicago after he was commissioned a second lieutenant in the infantry.
Shortly afterward, she gave birth to the first of her children, James, then Patricia, Victoria and, in 1950, to twins Diane and Richard, while Wyndham was stationed in North Africa, Italy, the Philippines, stateside and Korea, among other places.
Over the years, she accompanied her husband and family to Japan, Kansas, Texas, Virginia, Turkey, Pennsylvania, Germany and California. She was a homemaker; on occasion, a part-time substitute schoolteacher; and a volunteer for numerous social and social service organizations. Arlene was especially gifted at giving parties and took pleasure in welcoming guests into her many homes.
Wyndham preceded her in death in 2001, as did a brother, Robert Matney, in 1987.
A 17-year resident of Fairfield, Arlene is survived by a sister, Barbara Stoltz, who lives in the Sacramento area; her five children, James of Laguna Beach; Patricia Irani of Columbia, Md.; Victoria Moshofsky of Fair Oaks; Diane Holmstrom of Fair Oaks; and Richard of Santa Rosa; several beloved grandchildren and numerous nephews and nieces.
The Bammer family especially wants to thank the physicians and nurses at Laurel Creek, especially Doug Freeman and Lourdes Penamora, and the nurses of NorthBay Hospice and Bereavement. For those who wish to do so, donations may be made to a charity of choice in Arlene V. Bammerʼs memory.
At her request, no services will be held, but her cremains will be interred next to Wyndhamʼs at a future date in Arlington National Cemetery near Washington, D.C.
Arrangements are being handled by Bryan-Braker Funeral Home, 1850 W. Texas St., Fairfield, Calif. 94533.