“What do you plan to do for Christmas?”
I can’t tell you how many good friends have asked that question. They may think of me as a lonely old guy who lives alone. They want to keep me from being lonely. I have mentally wandered through where I am in my life and have some almost random thoughts to share with you about being lonely.
First of all, I’m not lonely. It’s true I miss my dear, sweet wife. It has been a little more than a year since her passing, but I am not lonely. After being together for more than 60 years, she is still with me. My friends at the Daily Republic have done a wonderful thing for me. They have posted her picture and story in their archives. I am very grateful for their thoughtfulness.
Those friends who keep asking are there for me.
Even though I live alone, I do have family with me when I want them. About three days each week I “sit across the table” from son Rick and daughter (-in-law) Donna and talk on Skype. It’s a wonderful invention. I know that we will be spending more time together (Skype) at Christmas because there are many fond memories to recall. Happy times.
I find myself chuckling at the thought of some childhood Christmas events. I will also be Skypeing with niece Vickie and grand-nephew Wesley (my host when I recently visited Hawaii).
No, I won’t be lonely. My guess is that I will also have a full measure of friendship from friends who love me and whom I love – electronically or in person.
One of the prime things I will be doing is celebrating the birth of Christ. Christmas is the official season for that celebration, but I celebrate His birth every day, all year. Those folks who have been in my home know that I have a “permanent” nativity scene in my foyer. I see it every time I come or go.
Then, there are the events: Invitations to lunch and dinner. One special event took place Thursday at the Green Valley Country Club. A number of local Rotary clubs had a joint Christmas celebration. I looked forward to seeing old Rotary friends with whom I haven’t talked and shared humor with for some time.
I have given up the hassle of exchanging gifts and Christmas cards. I just pick up the phone and say, “Merry Christmas. I love you.” It works for me, and I don’t feel guilty about it anymore. By the way, good friends, thanks for the beautiful cards and the beautiful thoughts that came with them.
My Christmas and my Christmas season will be full and joyful. Among other things, I will be celebrating my good fortune: To be able to function at my age; to share my ideas with you; to still remain, by the grace of God, independent; and to be able to look forward to another year of doing good things and things I believe in.
To carry my appetite through the holidays, I am taking tri-tip roast out of the freezer to prepare for holiday snacks. For me, it’s better than turkey.
Celebrating the birth of Christ, sharing life with family and friends and good food.
Merry Christmas, Murray. Am I a lucky fellow or what?
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