Thursday, March 5, 2015
FAIRFIELD-SUISUN, CALIFORNIA
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Why do parents drink alcohol after their children’s games?

Dear Annie: I have a question for parents. Why, when the kids’ soccer, football or baseball games are over, do the parents open up the trunks of their cars and get out the beer? Tailgate parties with alcohol do not belong at children’s events.

When my children played sports, we went out for ice cream. Alcohol was not permitted before or after. What kind of behavior is this teaching our children? Where are the police? They have to know this is happening. Their children play sports, too. Not to mention, these same parents put their children in the car and drive home after drinking in the parking lot. Please explain this to me. — Concerned Grandparent

Dear Concerned: There is no rational explanation. These parents are irresponsible and idiotic. The organizations or schools that sponsor the sports should issue rules about parental behavior before, during and immediately after the games, and you (or the parents of your grandchildren) should request that it be done.

Dear Annie: My niece recently married her live-in boyfriend. They chose to marry in another country, but didn’t send any announcements or invitations. That’s fine, because it was expensive.

When one aunt who could afford the plane fare and hotel asked whether she could attend, she was told “no.” The only guests were the parents. The aunt was deeply hurt. I felt bad for her and angry with the bridal couple for being so rude. When they returned to the states, another family member asked whether there would be a reception and was told there wouldn’t be.

Now they are hinting for presents. My sister-in-law asked me to go in with her to purchase a rather expensive gift, and I refused because of the way they treated the aunt. My family is angry with me. Frankly, I never want to hear from that niece again. Am I wrong? — Ex-Auntie

Dear Ex: Yes. The bridal couple can invite whomever they wish, and if they choose a small, immediate-family-only wedding with no stateside reception, that is up to them. The aunt was wrong to ask for an invitation simply because she could afford it. If they wanted extended family to be there, they would have invited everyone.

For most folks, if you are not invited to a wedding, you are not obligated to give a gift. But this is family, and yours is trying to be gracious and happy for the newlyweds by giving a gift. If you don’t wish to contribute, that’s up to you. But please don’t cut off your niece because you didn’t approve of her guest list. At least send a card with your best wishes.

Dear Annie: I read the letter from “California Dreamin’, whose husband is overweight. My husband and I have been married for 49 years, and he, too, has gained a considerable amount of weight.

I try to cook healthy meals, but my efforts are sabotaged when he adds butter and salt. He has been counseled by his physician many times, to no avail. Twelve years ago, he had a massive hemorrhagic stroke that left him with severe deficits. Yet he continues to refuse to do what is needed to be as healthy and mobile as he can be. He is comfortable sitting in his chair watching TV.

This has put an incredible amount of strain on me. I can’t tell you how much time, effort and money has been spent helping him to be more mobile with less physical stress on my fibromyalgic body. But I love this man with my whole heart. I take our marriage vows seriously, and I cannot imagine my life without him. I will continue to care for him until death do us part. I am not writing for sympathy. I accept my life as a gift from God, and I accept caregiving as my gift to others. — Still in Love

Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to [email protected], or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 Third St., Hermosa Beach, CA 90254.

 

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