Sunday, August 31, 2014
FAIRFIELD-SUISUN, CALIFORNIA
99 CENTS

Should I have surgery if it will make my daughter stop smoking?

By
April 22, 2014 |

Dear Annie: I am quite a bit overweight. My 29-year-old daughter is concerned that I might have a heart attack and die on her. Meanwhile, she has been smoking cigarettes since she was 16 years old. She said to me, “If you have gastric bypass surgery, I will quit smoking.”

My sister says I should absolutely do it because I might be saving my daughter’s life. That is an awful burden to place on me. Of course, I would love to lose weight, but something as drastic as gastric bypass surgery is frightening to me. Am I being selfish by not wanting to have the surgery? — Need Your Help

Dear Need: Not at all. We know your daughter’s heart is in the right place and that she is worried about you. But surgeries, including gastric bypass, come with serious risks. Such surgery is a last resort for those who are morbidly obese and have been unable to lose weight any other way. Have you tried programs like Weight Watchers or Overeaters Anonymous? Have you seen a nutritionist about eating in a more healthful way? Have you attempted an exercise program or checked at your local gym for a personal trainer? These are all steps you should take to get your weight into a healthy range.

So here’s a better bargain: Tell your daughter that you will get into a diet and exercise program while she works on giving up cigarettes. Someday, she may have a 29-year-old daughter who worries that her mother will die from smoking. We wish you both the best.

Dear Annie: This is a plea to women everywhere. When I use a public restroom and there is urine splashed all over the toilet seat, I want to scream. If there is another stall, I will use it instead, but otherwise, I am stuck cleaning off this mess with a wad of toilet paper before I can use the seat. Then I have to find my hand sanitizer.

So here’s the simple request: Ladies, if you sprinkle when you tinkle, be a sweetie, wipe the seatie! —Grimacing in Sarasota Fla.

Dear Grimacing: We are on your side. But in all fairness, women often don’t want to sit on a public toilet, and if there are no paper seat covers, they may feel it is necessary to hover over the seat. Also, sometimes the flush itself creates splashing, which is not the woman’s fault. So, ladies, please check the seat before you leave the stall and be considerate of the next woman.

Dear Annie: I am so glad “Not a Prude” addressed the issue of “undressed” women in the TV news. It is vulgar and sad.

I can get past the sleeveless dresses, but I’m sick of the cross-legged, too-short skirt pose and the deep cleavage. What happened to sitting behind a news desk? Why do we have to see anyone’s legs? I am not a prude, but I refuse to watch any news station where the women dress this way.

Our society glorifies sex. I remember one female announcer saying that the reason women wear dresses is because “the man wears the pants.” I wonder whether she wears dresses at home with her husband. It is degrading and sexist for any TV producer to insist that the female employees wear inappropriate clothing just to get more viewers. And it is sad for any woman to give in to that pressure in order to keep her job. Wearing short dresses and showing cleavage is unprofessional and sends the wrong message to other women and young girls who want to succeed in the professional world. — Another Woman Speaking Out

Dear Another: If enough people stop watching the stations that promote men as professionals and women as sex symbols, maybe things will change.

Annie’s Snippet for Earth Day (credit John Muir): When we try to pick out anything by itself, we find it hitched to everything else in the universe.

Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 Third St., Hermosa Beach, CA 90254.

Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar

LEAVE A COMMENT

Discussion | No comments

The Daily Republic does not necessarily condone the comments here, nor does it review every post. Read our full policy

.

Solano News

Police arrest 2 linked to Tabor Avenue violence

By Glen Faison | From Page: A1 | Gallery

 
Nurse-family program helps moms, moms-to-be

By Barry Eberling | From Page: A1 | Gallery

Garamendi ranks 6th on DC paper’s franking list

By Ryan McCarthy | From Page: A1

 
Secret to market’s health may be oil

By Bud Stevenson | From Page: C1

Delta Images: Visuals capture the imagination

By Glen Faison | From Page: D1

 
Suisun Valley grape harvest begins

By Barry Eberling | From Page: C1 | Gallery

Get ready to welcome alien life by 2034

By Brad Stanhope | From Page: A2

 
Fed’s actions ripple through world markets

By Mark Sievers | From Page: C2

Sheriff’s search-and-rescue team finds missing camper

By Amy Maginnis-Honey | From Page: A3

 
Running for their lives — and scholarship money

By Amy Maginnis-Honey | From Page: A3 | Gallery

The day the music died at Winterhawk Winery

By Amy Maginnis-Honey | From Page: A3 | Gallery

 
Fairfield payments to golf courses expected to drop

By Ryan McCarthy | From Page: A4, 2 Comments | Gallery

Comprehensive eye exams go beyond eye screenings

By Donna Hinman-Seabrooks, M.d. | From Page: D4

 
Area service members promote, graduate

By Nick DeCicco | From Page: C4

 
Fairfield police log: Aug. 29, 2014

By Susan Hiland | From Page: A6

Suisun City police log: Aug. 29, 2014

By Susan Hiland | From Page: A6

 
Bandit robs check cashing business at gunpoint

By Amy Maginnis-Honey | From Page: A6

Zombie portraits

By Amy Maginnis-Honey | From Page: A9 | Gallery

 
.

US / World

Angels use 8 pitchers to beat A’s 2-0, extend lead

By The Associated Press | From Page: B1

 
Communities go green for mosquito control; fish get all-you-can eat buffet

By Mcclatchy-Tribune News Service | From Page: D4

Girl, 9, dies; trapped in sand at Oregon beach

By The Associated Press | From Page: A6

 
GOP challenger tries novel tactics against Brown

By The Associated Press | From Page: A6

In quake, barrels became quarter-ton projectiles

By The Associated Press | From Page: A12

 
Wind, weather stoke Northern California wildfires

By The Associated Press | From Page: A12

Ferguson slowly starting to make comeback

By The Associated Press | From Page: A13

 
 
 
5 US airstrikes target Islamic State fighters

By The Associated Press | From Page: A13

.

Opinion

Thanks to Tomato Alley volunteers

By Letter to the Editor | From Page: A10

 
No justice, peace without effort

By Letter to the Editor | From Page: A10, 2 Comments

Lots to do when the earth moves

By Glen Faison | From Page: A10

 
Sound off for Aug. 31, 2014

By Daily Republic | From Page: A10

 
Editorial Cartoons: Aug. 31, 2014

By Daily Republic Syndicated Content | From Page: A10

Faison identified location properly

By Letter to the Editor | From Page: A10

 
A Labor Day to remember

By Daily Republic | From Page: A10

Conservatives in a huff over immigration

By Ruben Navarrette | From Page: A11

 
Facts vs. visions, and real outcomes

By Thomas Sowell | From Page: A11

 
How should unions weigh into politics?

By Rod Keck | From Page: A11

.

Living

Utah approves winery in town with polygamous sect

By The Associated Press | From Page: D2

 
Community Calendar: Aug. 31, 2014

By Susan Hiland | From Page: A2

Today in History: Aug. 31, 2014

By The Associated Press | From Page: A2

 
1 God, 2 faiths, a marriage

By The Associated Press | From Page: D2

My boyfriend is unmotivated and passionless, but I feel trapped

By Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar | From Page: D4

 
Horoscopes: Aug. 31, 2014

By Holiday Mathis | From Page: D4

.

Entertainment

TVGrid

By Daily Republic Syndicated Content | From Page: C5

 
PUBLISHERS WEEKLY BEST-SELLERS

By The Associated Press | From Page: D6

Wilder memoir to give gritty view of prairie life

By The Associated Press | From Page: D6

 
Publisher acquires Robin Williams biography

By The Associated Press | From Page: D6

Amazon starts selling physical books in Brazil

By The Associated Press | From Page: D6

 
.

Sports

Peavy takes no-hitter into 8th of Giants’ 3-1 win

By The Associated Press | From Page: B1

 
Gordon says Stewart could run strong in Atlanta

By The Associated Press | From Page: B1 | Gallery

 
Prep football preview: Vacaville still team to beat in MEL

By Brian Arnold | From Page: B1 | Gallery

Bob Tway shoots 63 for share of Calgary lead

By The Associated Press | From Page: B2

 
With heavy heart, Kuchar hovers around the lead

By The Associated Press | From Page: B2

Suzann Pettersen tied for Portland Classic lead

By The Associated Press | From Page: B2

 
Isner loses to Kohlschreiber in US Open 3rd round; Serena advances

By The Associated Press | From Page: B3 | Gallery

Bouhanni wins 8th Vuelta stage, Valverde leads

By The Associated Press | From Page: B3

 
Fighter War Machine extradited on assault charges

By The Associated Press | From Page: B3, 1 Comment

Bocce Federation League results

By Daily Republic | From Page: B3

 
Timberwolves have record week after trading Love

By The Associated Press | From Page: B3

Schumacher wins Traxxas Nitro Shootout

By The Associated Press | From Page: B3

 
Kevin Harvick dominates to win Atlanta Nationwide

By The Associated Press | From Page: B3

College football Top 25

By The Associated Press | From Page: B5

 
No. 11 Stanford routs UC Davis 45-0 in opener

By The Associated Press | From Page: B5 | Gallery

Jonathan Martin makes 49ers’ 53-man roster

By The Associated Press | From Page: B6

 
Raiders cut Little, Ross to get to 53

By The Associated Press | From Page: B6

Champ Bailey, Michael Sam among NFL cuts

By The Associated Press | From Page: B6 | Gallery

 
US dominates Finland 114-55 in basketball worlds

By The Associated Press | From Page: B8 | Gallery

.

Business

Ferguson fallout: A call for police ‘body cams’

By The Associated Press | From Page: C1

 
Earthquake insurance shunned by vast majority of Californians

By Mcclatchy-Tribune News Service | From Page: C1

Startups offer banking for smartphone users

By The Associated Press | From Page: C2

 
.

Obituaries

Godofredo Cuaresma

By Susan Hiland | From Page: A4

 
Mary Alta ‘Sandy’ Hubbard

By Nancy Green | From Page: A4

Hazel Gertrude Wamsley

By Nancy Green | From Page: A4

 
Laurie Danielson Bailey

By Nancy Green | From Page: A4

Jerry Lee Trammell

By Nancy Green | From Page: A4, 5 Comments

 
Lois C. Clark

By Nancy Green | From Page: A4

George H. Gollinger

By Brad Stanhope | From Page: A4

 
.

Comics

.

Delta Towns Project

Delta Towns: Fishing rules the river in the Delta

By Susan Winlow | From Page: DTP1 | Gallery

Delta Towns: Delta a breeze of a day trip

By Glen Faison | From Page: DTP3

Delta Towns: Walnut Grove shows a bit of historic Japan

By Susan Winlow | From Page: DTP4 | Gallery

Delta Towns: Ryde Hotel a speakeasy from the past

By Susan Winlow | From Page: DTP4 | Gallery

Delta Towns: Walnut Grove: Fun facts, things to see

By Susan Winlow | From Page: DTP4

Delta Towns: Locke an unparalleled universe in the Delta

By Susan Winlow | From Page: DTP6 | Gallery

Delta Towns: Prolific pears rule Courtland area

By Susan Winlow | From Page: DTP8 | Gallery

Delta Towns: Hood-Courtland: Small towns boast interesting facts

By Susan Winlow | From Page: DTP9 | Gallery

Delta Towns: Old, new collide in Freeport

By Susan Winlow | From Page: DTP10

Delta Towns: Delta Images: Visuals capture the imagination

By Glen Faison | From Page: DTP12 | Gallery