Believing in your relationship, and believing that you’ll help each other deal with whatever life hands you, is a great way to make your love life better.
When couples believe in one another and see their relationship as a place of comfort and a platform for growth, it makes moving forward much easier and almost everything more fun. The willingness to believe that you’re with the right person for the right reasons may be the key to a happy relationship.
If you silently wait for your partner to help the relationship move forward, you both could grow old in the process. Have a talk and ask your partner to give your relationship the time and attention that it needs to thrive, and make the first move yourself. Remember: When you give a little, you can get a lot in return.
Good relationships are hard work. You need to appreciate that not every day or every interaction is going to be a good one. You also have to be tolerant of that fact that neither you nor your partner will be perfect, so give each other some room to be human.
Things and people get off track. But usually, with a little time and talk, we can find our way back. One of your most powerful tools is communicating with your partner about where you are and brainstorming ways to make things better. Of course, you have to be completely honest about what is going on for both of you, along with what it is you are willing to accept for yourself and your relationship. If you are patient and if you converse with one another clearly, you can make your relationship everything you want it to be.
When someone you care for accidentally steps on your toes, don’t get your knickers in a twist. Better to take it in stride by remembering all the times you’ve made a mistake. No two people can live together and not bump heads upon occasion; it’s simply a part of life. Once you accept that, you will find it much easier to deal with the ups and downs of being a couple.
Agreeing to disagree is another form of believing in each other. It’s not about giving in; it’s really about healthy compromise. And remember, making up is much more fun than being upset. Learn to talk out problems and lift each other up instead of putting one another down.
Life gets weird, and it’s healthier to learn to deal with change rather than deny it exists or make it a mini-drama.
Believing in each other will enhance your life together as a couple. You can start right now by making an honest assessment of where you are in your life and by beginning the repair process if you have any doubts about your relationship. It’s the only way you can move to the next level.
Dr. Barton Goldsmith, a psychotherapist in Westlake Village, is the author of “100 Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence.” Email Barton@BartonGoldsmith.com.