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Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar

My father’s bullying behavior is straining our relationship

Dear Annie: My father has been a bully for as long as I can remember. He has unending excuses for his behavior, but the bottom line is, he thinks nothing of browbeating people to get what he wants, sometimes to the point of being cruel. He never sees it as wrong. It is always someone […]

My daughter’s future mother-in-law is hijacking wedding plans

Dear Annie: Our daughter recently became engaged and we couldn’t be happier. She is our only child and is marrying a great guy. While we are excited about all of the planning for the big event, it appears that the groom’s mother, “Dolores,” is trying to take control. For nearly every detail that my daughter […]

Is it wrong for me to want to un-friend my mom on Facebook?

Dear Annie: Yesterday, I had an argument with my 85-year-old mother. She said I must be a lesbian because of my recent Facebook posts in support of all my gay friends and the Supreme Court decision upholding gay marriage. Specifically, I changed my photo so it was colored in beautiful rainbow shades. My mother was […]

I wonder if I was right not to tell of brother-in-law’s cheating

Dear Annie: My wife and I were married in a double wedding with her sister. Two years later, my new brother-in-law began boasting to me of his philandering. He rationalized it by claiming that as long as his wife knew nothing about it, he wasn’t hurting her. I told this to my wife and asked […]

My mother-in-law is trying to include kids in a kids-free wedding

Dear Annie: My daughter is getting married in two weeks. My 80-year-old mother-in-law is unable to attend, but she called us with a request. Her daughter, “Donna,” the bride’s aunt, will be flying across the country with her two young children to attend the wedding. She asked whether Donna’s two children could have a role […]

July 28, 2015 | Posted in State, national lifestyle columnists | Leave a reply

I’m hurt that my friend is now too busy for me

Dear Annie: How do you cope with a friendship where the person stays connected just enough to continually remind you of how unimportant you are? I have a friend with whom I was once quite close. We exercised and ran errands together, and when she was seriously ill, I spent countless hours visiting, reading to […]

Is it wrong to want a verbal commitment from cheating husband?

Dear Annie: Last year, my husband told me that he was having an affair. I was shocked. All I knew was that he had been drinking excessively and I was concerned. He told me that the Other Woman “gets him” and that he is in love with her. She makes him feel young again. He […]

My daughter claims the ring she borrowed belongs to her

Dear Annie: I have a problem with my oldest daughter. She has always been a selfish child. For years, we did not get along, and many times, we stopped speaking. She popped back into my life last October through a Facebook chat. She was separated from her husband and had left her teenage children. She […]

My husband says he is no longer attracted to me

Dear Annie: I am 62 years old and have been married to “Clyde” for 12 years. We do not have a sexual relationship. He prefers to sleep on the sofa and always has, saying it’s more comfortable. Clyde had a horrible childhood. He told me that his mother had sex with various men in his […]

I’m afraid my daughter is setting herself up for a lifetime of marital misery

Dear Annie: I am running out of advice for my daughter, “Katie.” She lives with her fiance. Last year, his middle-aged, disabled father moved in with them. A month ago, his sister, her fiance and their two toddlers also moved in. The children wreak havoc on her clean, organized home. Neither the sister nor the […]

The woman I’ve been ‘dating’ is having sex with another man

Dear Annie: I am a divorced male in my mid-50s. A couple of years ago, I met a divorced woman through a mutual friend. We share a common hobby, which led to us spending hours of time together, often just the two of us. I asked my lady friend early on if she was interested […]

Don’t try to force a child to be physically affectionate

Dear Annie: When is it OK for a child not to want to be touched by anyone, including his parents? My 10-year-old grandson doesn’t want to hug anyone, nor does he like people putting their hands on his back, shoulder or head. Should this just be accepted? Should we use behavior modification so he will […]

July 21, 2015 | Posted in State, national lifestyle columnists | Leave a reply

My wife doesn’t want a fence, even with nude neighbors

Dear Annie: My wife and I are lucky to live near the friendliest, most helpful neighbors we could ask for. They are a middle-aged European couple who moved to the States two years ago. Here’s the problem. They have a swimming pool in their backyard, and when they use it, they do not wear swimsuits. […]

I’m worried I may have to raise my stepdaughters children

Dear Annie: I have been married for 20 years. When I met my husband, he already had a grown daughter from his first marriage who was living independently in another state. “Beth” and I have never been particularly close. Seven years ago, Beth married a man who ran off within six months, and she has […]

Birth mother is reposting photos of my kids without permission

Dear Annie: I made contact with my birth mother several years ago, but we are not close. Recently, I found out from my sister that my birth mother has been reposting photographs of my children from other friends’ pages. I have set privacy guidelines for posting photos of my children and she has totally disregarded […]

I’ve been jealous for 40 years and I can’t seem to get over it

Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 40 years. When we were first dating, my future wife unexpectedly set me aside to explore the possibilities of seeing another man. It was a difficult time for me. The other man was a mutual acquaintance, for whom I didn’t much care, which intensified my […]

Should I tell my mother-in-law about her son’s rude behavior?

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been together for 12 years. We have three children. His mother is still living, and he has one younger brother. My issue is with this brother, “James.” A few years ago, James cheated on his then-girlfriend, “Sheila,” with whom he has a daughter. Sheila also has a son […]

I was humiliated at a ‘customer appreciation’ event

Dear Annie: The real estate agent who sold me my home nine years ago periodically phones my house, asking whether I plan on selling, and offering his assistance. We have a courteous, professional relationship. I never had a problem with him or his company. Recently, I was a guest at a large customer appreciation event […]

Husband’s love child is entitled to medical history, not money

Dear Annie: My husband has been dead for years. He was strong, handsome and successful, but not faithful. Women shamelessly threw themselves at him and he took advantage. He once had to send me to a doctor to be tested for STDs, and I was so angry and embarrassed that I decided the only way […]

July 14, 2015 | Posted in State, national lifestyle columnists | Leave a reply

In order to reconcile with brother, man has to let past go

Dear Annie: My brother, “John,” one of nine siblings, has not spoken to our 83-year-old mother in more than 12 years. He lives less than five miles from her, drives past her house daily and never stops in. At first, he sent birthday and Christmas cards, but even that stopped. Mom continues to send cards […]

Don’t make excuses for so you can cheat on your wife

Dear Annie: I work full-time, am married and try to make time for my family. Twenty years ago, I had a breakdown and was hospitalized for attempted suicide. I was put on medication and saw therapists once a week. I returned to school and finished my degree in counseling. That’s the background. Now the problem: […]

I want to sell my home but I don’t want to have to ‘stage’ it

Dear Annie: The time has come for my husband and me to downsize. It has been 10 years since we’ve sold a home, and something seems to have become very popular: “staging.” I have been married 50 years and in that time have sold seven homes. Four of them sold to the first people who […]

Some medical treatments can affect one’s overall health

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been happily married for 24 years. It is a second marriage for both of us. I am 68, and he is 71. We are still working. Fortunately, we enjoy our professions, but my husband will not be able to retire because his former wife receives alimony for the […]

I don’t think my son needs a large guest list for his second wedding

Dear Annie: My son is divorced and will be marrying again soon. His fiancee has never been married. I like her and am happy for both of them. Here is the problem: When he married the first time, my husband and I paid for all of the customary groom things – the rehearsal dinner, the bar […]

I think my dad is using the money I give him for drugs

Dear Annie: My dad has been a mess for the past couple of years and he’s sinking into a hole. Six months ago, he was laid off and his unemployment benefits just stopped. He also hit a car and left the scene. The police caught up with him and charged him with a hit and […]

Neighbors’ daughters are too noisy. Can we tell them?

Dear Annie: How do I tell my neighbors that it’s annoying and frustrating to listen to their teenaged daughters shrieking and screaming as they’re having fun outside? Often, I want to go out and play with my dog, but I can’t because these girls are behaving like 5-year-olds, screaming their heads off. There are things […]

July 07, 2015 | Posted in State, national lifestyle columnists | 1 Reply

A little distance from abusive father may be a good idea

Dear Annie: My father has always been especially unkind to my sister, “Portia.” She always has had behavioral problems, not to mention she is a bit paranoid and has a ferocious temper. Portia also drinks too much and continues to contact her abusive ex-boyfriend. My older sister and I try to show Portia lots of […]

I corrected the grammar of my boss and she went ballistic

Dear Annie: After living and working for 35 years in a large city, my husband and I were able to return to our hometown to help care for our elderly parents. I reconnected with a high school friend who asked me to work part-time in her large, nationally known family business. One of my duties […]

‘I Am the Nation’ a great way to remember the Fourth

Dear Readers: Happy Fourth of July! Here’s one of our favorite pieces, originally written in 1955 as a public relations advertisement for the Norfolk and Western Railway company magazine (now the Norfolk Southern Corporation) and updated in 1976. Although some of the statistics have changed over the years, the sentiment remains the same: ”I Am […]

My ex-boyfriend is pressuring me to get back together

Dear Annie: I recently broke up with my boyfriend of two years. I had been having doubts for a few months and one night he took me out for a surprise picnic. On the way to the picnic, I thought he was going to propose and the only thought I had was: “How do I […]

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