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Author Archive: Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar

Should I tell my co-worker that I won’t tell anyone about her massage parlor work?

Dear Annie: Several years ago, I went to a massage parlor and paid a woman for sex. This same woman recently got a job in the office where I work. There are only nine employees. This is an unbelievable coincidence. We get along pretty well as co-workers and are respectful toward each other. But it’s awkward […]

My husband still pays his 45-year-old unemployed son’s bills

Dear Annie: My stepson, “Louis,” is 45 years old, has been unemployed for the past 10 years (he never gets along with his bosses or co-workers) and got busted for DUI, for which he underwent court-appointed treatment and had his license revoked for five years. When his dad and I married, we moved into my home, […]

What should I do about my fiancee’s wild sexual history?

Dear Annie: I am 27 and am engaged to my 26-year-old fiancee. However, she recently told me about her college days, which included a lot of sex with both men and women, sometimes in groups. She said she really enjoyed it, but it is in the past. I find it difficult to understand why she […]

April 15, 2014 | Posted in State, national lifestyle columnists | 2 Replies

I don’t want my freeloading son to move back in with me

Dear Annie: My 26-year-old son graduated from college three years ago. He worked for his father for one year, worked on a marijuana farm for one year and has been living off of his savings for the past eight months. He hasn’t been looking for a job. He says he doesn’t want to work for someone […]

My husband won’t stick to a budget even though we’re heavily in debt

Dear Annie: I’ve been married for 20 years. My husband had a great job that allowed him to support me while I completed my education. Our financial situation diminished, but as long as we could share responsibilities, it was OK with me. When I entered the job force, there was a radical shift. I became responsible […]

Would you tell us about the alternatives to Alcoholics Anonymous?

Dear Annie: I enjoy reading your column and agree with most of your advice, including your recommendations when it comes to handling alcohol addictions and binge drinking. I do not work in this field, but I’ve seen alternatives to AA that may be more palatable to some who are seeking assistance. Would you print this information, […]

I’m worried about my 78-year-old brother-in-law living alone in Florida

Dear Annie: My husband and I live in Minnesota. His 78-year-old stepbrother lives by himself in Florida. “Horace” has a part-time job and goes to church regularly, but otherwise sticks to himself. He has only a nodding acquaintance with the neighbors. We are his only family. We are the ones who initiate phone calls and send […]

Please remind your readers about Global Youth Service Day

Dear Annie: Did you know that an estimated 16 million youth participate in volunteer activities in the U.S. every year, and that by volunteering these young people will perform better in school? These amazing kids do everything from collecting gently used books and developing literacy programs to creating anti-bullying campaigns in school districts. All of these […]

I wish I could live my life differently and have more contact with Mom

Dear Annie: My mother is approaching 80, and after raising three of us, she is in declining health. My brother and sister live near Mom, but I couldn’t handle big-city life, so after I married, we moved to my wife’s hometown. I don’t drive, so visiting my family always means relying on my wife, and […]

April 08, 2014 | Posted in State, national lifestyle columnists | Leave a reply

My parents won’t attend Paul’s wedding if he invites our transgender brother

Dear Annie: A few years ago, my brother announced that he should have been born a female. He started counseling and three years ago legally changed his first name and began living as a woman. This devastated my parents and two of my siblings, and they have disowned him. I have not seen my brother since […]

April 07, 2014 | Posted in State, national lifestyle columnists | Tagged , | 2 Replies

My sister doesn’t like my new wife so I cut off all contact with her

Dear Annie: I am a recently divorced and remarried 46-year-old male. I was always very close to my sister, but these past few years, she only thinks of herself. My mother passed away a year ago, and my sister handled her memorial service. I was extremely grateful to her because I was a wreck. However, on […]

I’m fed up with my wife’s ‘friendship’ with a male co-worker

Dear Annie: In the past four years, my wife has become friendly with a male co-worker. The two of them phone each other often and send an enormous number of text messages, often more than 100 a week. These calls and text messages are not work related. At her mother’s house, she disappears into the bathroom […]

A new requirement at work makes me feel uncomfortable

Dear Annie: I’m 18 years old. I work two jobs to save money for college next year, one during the week and the other at a coffee shop on the weekends. Last week, my boss from the coffee shop sent an email to all employees saying that we are now required to take a daily […]

I’m upset that my sister rekindled a friendship with my ex-husband

Dear Annie: My husband and I were great friends with my sister and her husband. When we separated, my ex continued to hang out with them because they liked to drink and do drugs together. After the divorce, they stopped seeing him. I just found out that they rekindled the friendship when my sister met […]

Our nephew’s girlfriend brags about her sex life in front of our children

Dear Annie: My husband and I have two children, ages 11 and 8. They enjoy spending time with my mother-in-law. The problem is, my husband’s nephew lives with Granny and brings girls home with him for sex. The latest girlfriend likes to brag about it in front of everyone, including my kids. We tried letting the […]

My children are getting an unwanted education at grandma’s house

Dear Annie: My husband and I have two children, ages 11 and 8. They enjoy spending time with my mother-in-law. The problem is, my husband’s nephew lives with Granny and brings girls home with him for sex. The latest girlfriend likes to brag about it in front of everyone, including my kids. We tried letting […]

My husband has health issues, but I miss our intimacy

Dear Annie: I am a healthy 60-year-old woman, married for 20 years. My husband has some health problems. He’s a little overweight and has diabetes and high blood pressure. He also suffers from erectile dysfunction. I don’t know how to talk to him about this and sometimes wonder whether he cares that we do not […]

Son had to wear diapers to bed until he saw an urologist

Dear Annie: This is in response to “Bedwetter,” who is afraid to move in with his girlfriend for fear she’ll find out he still wets the bed. My oldest son had a problem with bedwetting and was unable to attend sleepovers because he didn’t want his friends to know he wore pull-ups at night. My […]

Since my husband has been under stress, our love life has suffered

Dear Annie: I’m in my early 50s and have been married to “Ralph” for two years. At first, he was attentive and romantic, sending flowers and writing cards. We went on frequent weekend trips where we would focus only on each other. In the past year, Ralph’s job responsibilities tripled, and so did his stress […]

My elderly father is abusive, but Mom won’t talk to caseworker

Dear Annie: My parents are both in their 80s and don’t get around well anymore. Dad has a history of verbal (sometimes physical) abuse, and Mom has always put up with it. Recently, Mom has been cornering family members and telling them how crazy Dad is, that he screams at her all the time, hits her […]

I’m hurt that my sisters invite my ex-husband to family functions

Dear Annie: Thirty-two years ago, my ex left me for another woman. He was verbally abusive and denigrated the children and me every chance he had. People did not realize what I went through during my marriage. I remarried 23 years ago, and the children are now grown adults. I have no contact with my […]

My wife defrauded her siblings out of lawsuit money and I’m conflicted

Dear Annie: Four years ago, my wife, “Joann,” was the executor of her mother’s will. Per instructions, she divided the estate equally with her three siblings. However, a few months later, the estate received an award of $200,000 for a lawsuit her mother had filed 30 years ago. Joann and one of her siblings split […]

Be careful what you say – gossip can tear a family apart

Dear Annie: For the past 14 years, my family has not spoken to me. Worse, they have spread lies and brought lawsuits, none of which they have won. The gossip has been hurtful and damaging to my small immediate family. No one, of course, has ever asked to hear the truth. Life is short, and […]

My wife won’t have sex and won’t consider counseling

Dear Annie: I’m 52 years old, and since my wife started menopause, we no longer have sex. It has become physically painful for her, and she has no desire whatsoever. I understand what is happening and am trying to be supportive and roll with the punches. But it’s difficult. I could get along without intercourse […]

March 21, 2014 | Posted in State, national lifestyle columnists | Tagged , | 1 Reply

How can I visit with my husband’s family and stay sane?

Dear Annie: My husband and I are expecting our second child. When our first was born, my in-laws (who live out of town) visited shortly after the birth, and it was awful. They tried to separate me from our baby to have alone time with him. And instead of helping out, they created additional work, […]

I’m 13 and my friend is rude and annoying. What should I do?

Dear Annie: I am a 13-year-old girl whose best friend (I’ll call her “Blue”) has become very rude and even annoying. I can no longer make a comment about something without her answering nastily or adding logic to imaginary scenarios that aren’t intended to be logical. It’s irritating. We have another friend, “Violet,” who is […]

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